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We have lost the ability to disagree without turning on each other

While the community is focussed on external threats, the threat from within could cause even greater damage.
Nomi Kaltmann
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Published: 4 May 2026

Last updated: 5 May 2026

In the past four months I've had an interesting insight into our Australian Jewish community, and I've come to the conclusion that the Jews of Australia are not okay.

I've been a writer for several years now, since I landed an internship at the American Tablet magazine in 2020, writing about our community for both local and international media. So in the immediate aftermath of the Bondi attack, it was not completely surprising that my email inbox detonated. Contacts I had built over five years, editors, radio producers, people I had pitched once and never heard from again, all suddenly wanted the same thing: an Australian Jewish voice, and quickly.

The worst terrorist attack our country had ever seen became, for me, the most professionally intense period of my life. In the days following the attack I wrote almost a dozen articles, appeared on major global Jewish podcasts, and gave interviews to radio stations in the United States, London, Canada and locally.

I hardly slept at all, and I kept talking, writing, explaining, trying to give shape to what people were feeling, and to say clearly that the warning signs had been there, that the Australian government's response to antisemitism had been weak and ineffective, and that massacre had not come out of nowhere.

Afterwards, the response from within our community was overwhelming. Messages poured in from people I loved, from those I barely knew and from others I hadn't spoken to in decades. In the weeks and months that followed Bondi, people stopped me in the street, in shul, at events, to thank me for using my voice to speak to the world's media, for articulating what so many were feeling but couldn't find the words to say. It was bigger than anything I had ever experienced, and even today, people still stop me to say thank you.

I was accused of doing the work of the enemies of the Jewish people and of being a self-hating Jew.

However, in the past few months I've also experienced the opposite of this outpouring of love. I put my pen to paper a few times for this publication and stirred up fierce community debate. I wrote that President Herzog's visit was a bad idea that would cause a circus and divert resources from our grieving community at this time.

I wrote that we should not cancel Grace Tame because it would only make her a martyr, and that cancel culture will ultimately be used against us.

I wrote that we should survey how many anti-Zionist Jews there actually are in Australia, because I believe they would constitute a larger portion of our community than our communal leaders would suggest.

I wrote that I resist efforts to cast anti-Zionist Jews as being outside the Jewish people, because I believe we all share a Neshama, a soul from a common essence. I also wrote about my complex feelings regarding Israel since October 7.

For expressing these opinions, I was vilified. I was told to go fuck myself, I was called a stupid bitch, an attention seeker, a whore. I was accused of doing the work of the enemies of the Jewish people and of being a self-hating Jew. The abuse rolled in from strangers, from people I know peripherally, and from plenty of people I see regularly, including some who weeks earlier had stopped me in the street to thank me for my voice.

No space for nuance

The shift was immediate and total. I was granted no space for nuance, no allowance for complexity. One moment I was the toast of the town, the next I was persona non grata. If I’m being honest, I don’t even think most of these are opinions are particularly edgy. I wrote them because I wanted people to think about things a little deeper, and to be a little more mindful of our community discourse.

Of course, people are free to disagree with me, but from a sociological perspective I found the whole experience both deeply jarring and extremely fascinating. I knew the Jewish community could close ranks, but I had not expected to feel it directed at me with such intense force.

The erosion of respectful disagreement is what has unsettled me the most.

Being tossed between these two extremes has taught me that our communal discourse has become brittle. You can be held up as a representative voice one week and cast out as a danger the next. There is no middle ground, and in many spaces, there is little opportunity to think critically or engage respectfully with someone you disagree with.

I don’t think the Jews of Australia are okay. Of course, it’s not everyone, and there are still people who can have kind, decent and respectful conversations about difficult topics. But in general, it has become harder to find people who can do this well.

Maybe there is too much intergenerational trauma, given how many Australian Jews are the children and grandchildren of Holocaust survivors.

The threat is coming from the speed with which we sort people into allies and enemies, and discard those who think differently,

Maybe it is a trauma response in a post-October 7 world, where it feels like antisemitism has moved from the margins into the mainstream. Maybe it is the reality of so many people still trying to process what it means to be the victims of Australia’s worst ever terror attack.

No one has to agree with my opinions, but I was raised and educated to believe that respectful disagreement is part of Jewish tradition, and that we argue because we care, because we want to get to the bottom of a matter after interrogating all sides. The erosion of respectful disagreement is what has unsettled me the most. Not the abuse itself, but rather the realisation that the conditions for normal dialogue have disappeared from our communal life.

I don't have a clean answer to any of this, and I'm not sure one exists. But I do know this: I do not believe the greatest threat to our community is from the outside. I think the threat that is coming from what we are doing to each other, from the speed with which we sort people into allies and enemies, discard those who think differently, and the way we speak to one another without humanity, is an equal if not greater threat. If we keep going this way, the damage we will do to ourselves will far outlast whatever it is we are trying to protect against.

Antisemitism in Australia is real and rising. Our community is facing serious external threats. But having experienced the highs and lows of our internal conversations, I am more concerned than I expected to be about something else: our ability to talk to each other. We have lost the ability to disagree with each other without turning on each other.

I wrote this piece because I think we need to say that out loud. And until we find our way back from it, we will not just be dealing with what is happening around us, we will be dealing with what we are doing to ourselves.

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Nomi Kaltmann

Nomi Kaltmann

Nomi Kaltmann is an Australian lawyer and journalist. Her writing has appeared in major Australian and international publications including Crikey, Griffith Review, Mamamia, Tablet Magazine, The Australian Financial Review, The Daily Beast, The Forward, The Guardian, The Jewish Telegraphic Agency and The Spectator. She regularly appears on radio and podcasts to discuss Australia’s Jewish community, including NPR (USA), CBC (Canada), LBC (London), Call Me Back, Unholy: Two Jews on the News, SBS and The Times of Israel. An influential Orthodox feminist leader and founding president of the Jewish Orthodox Feminist Alliance (JOFA Australia), she is a sought-after speaker on religion, interfaith and contemporary Jewish life.

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  • Avatar of Gary

    Gary18 May at 04:50 am

    Thanks for speaking out Nomi. Many of us in the community prefer to bite our tongues and this is a real shame. All for the sake of “shalom bayit”. Unfortunately the last few years our community has moved further and further to the right. Every community event hosts either a skynews journalist, a fundamentalist Christian, or a Liberal and One Nation politician. This has branded our community as a right wing community that cannot handle nuance, disagreement and debate. Toe the party line or risk your funding, your status and even your friendships. Hopefully many people read your article and realise that this mccarthyist like campaign is doing a great disservice to our community’s long term future.

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    Lani17 May at 10:26 pm

    Thank you for writing this. I do have a bit of a “what took you so long?”
    There have been many before you who have been cast out for disagreement including in AJDS and NIF. This predates Oct 7. It’s wider than JCA and ofcourse includes them.
    Everyone thinks they can be the Jewish Australian that stays within the line. Most people think “if I just criticise Israel or certain community positions politely enough or narrowly enough, they won’t come for me with pitchforks. ” Ofcourse, they always do. And this includes you too.
    There are spaces outside the mainstream for diverse Jewish voices. Some are more radical. Some are anti Zionist . Some are not focused on the language of Zionism/ anti Zionism and are pretty mainstream and aligned with ordinary opinion about global events. It’s a shame TJI has trouble platforming very ordinary positions. It makes you (Nomi) seem radical when you say the most obvious things.

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    Dan17 May at 08:41 am

    Thanks for the article. I too see what you describe.
    Criticism of Israel is now enough for many to denounce anyone, including Jews.
    Anti-Semitism is a real problem, one which I think current attitudes and actions of large parts of the Jewish community do nothing to alleviate.
    I’m not sure if the cat can be put back in the bag. But if there is any hope, it is not to be found in reactionary grievance politics, but in difficult dialogue and maintaining relationships with those of us who also have skin in the game, but refuse to bow down to the provided narrative.

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    Josh17 May at 05:44 am

    I think that this is under-reporting the nuanced views within the Jewish community and the lack of nuance outside the Jewish community. I think that the better way to present the issue is that there is a lack of nuance everywhere.

  • Avatar of Rachel Sussman

    Rachel Sussman16 May at 03:55 am

    Thank you for this article.
    I agree that we have lost the capacity to talk to each other and discuss issues, and this is very destructive as is it corrosive from within.
    That said, I have to confess, when I see Jewish people disconnecting themselves from Israel, it does upset me. Of course, not every Jew wants to live in Israel, or will agree with the government of the day, but this is not the same as being Anti-Zionist… So yes, I do find Anti-Zionist Jews outside, because our culture and history is founded on having a physical and spiritual home. It expresses in our prayers (‘Next Year in Jerusalem’, ‘if I forget you Jerusalem’ etc.) and our festivals. So while one may choose to live in Israel or not, whether one agrees with the policies and actions of a current Israeli Government or not, this must never interfere with the right of the Jewish people to their actual physical and spiritual home… When a Jewish person denies this, and attempts to ‘normalise’ this denial, he/she have lost the line to differentiate, and a part of their Judaism, but yes, it would be healthier to discuss it, rather

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    Steve10 May at 02:22 pm

    i have noticed this too in conversations. no nuance. extreme (usually right wing) positions.

  • Avatar of Deb Friedman

    Deb Friedman8 May at 06:30 am

    Bravo to Nomi on this very thoughtful piece exploring what is happening in our community. I agree that we have lost the ability to accept different views, and a remedy is sorely needed to heal the rifts that are just getting wider. Please keep writing, you are an important voice.

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    Jack8 May at 03:36 am

    Think are community is not ok? How should we be when the reality of our home has been turned upside down? Not only are our shules, shops, homes, kindergartens torched, our people murdered and at the same time all this is downplayed, justified and called false flags.